Be Patient.

The title says it all. Be patient! Don’t rush everything.  If you’re in such a hurry you don’t have time to enjoy life.

Patient

• Able to accept or tolerate delays, problems, or suffering without becoming annoyed or anxious.

Time is a great, wonderful, and annoying thing. In life, it is not known how much time we are going to be given so we need to make sure that we make the most of it. One thing that we all need to do though is to be patient. Most things in life do not happen overnight. It takes time and work to achieve things in life and that is what makes those things more meaningful.

Anything that is going to be important to you in life takes time to get. A relationship is a great example. Some people date for years before they get married, some date for months. Either way, they weren’t married seconds after meeting. You put time into things and the outcome is always worth the wait. That goes for everything in life. Family, friends, work, or school and then of course the millions of other things that I didn’t list. Put effort in, be patient for the outcome, and just wait for the amazing results.

My life right now isn’t the best. I’m unemployed and being faced with the chance to give up. the give up I speak of is a temporary one because I know I will never give up, but it’s still taking a step back, If I have to go home, its ok, I’ll live. I need to be patient with life. Know that I will get to where I need to be in time. It will definitely be a lesson learned.

Anything in life takes work and dedication. Chase that dream, but be prepared to be patient. Be prepared to put some time and effort into it. Don’t expect to say I want to get a book published and then expect it to happen in one week. First you have to write the book. Don’t expect your life goals to be accomplished in a week. First you have to work for it. There are steps to get to wherever you need to be. Whatever you’re doing. Figure out the steps and accomplish them. Put effort in and you will see a reward down the road.

Want a job promotion? Talk to your boss, do the work, and try to achieve it.

Want to travel the world? Save money, plan, and enjoy.

Want to follow your dreams? Figure out what the first step is to getting there and take it.

I am horrible at having patience and it is something that I am learning to be better at on a daily basis. which i mean, i have bad anxiety so that kind of sums up why I have a problem dealing with patience.. If I’m on a diet, I want results. If I've submitted a paper, I want to know the grade. Most recently it’s been submitting job applications and wanting a call right away. I have had to wait since 12/9 to find out if I have gotten the job I interviewed for and its driving me nuts because they told me “after Christmas” I would find out. Naturally I expected a call at 8 am on December 26^th, never got it. No matter what I know that whatever is going to be the outcome, I have to deal with, and I also need to be patient.

Don’t rush everything. Enjoy life. I am 23 years old and I am in no hurry to grow up. Yes I am an adult, but age 30 can stay far away. I have a lot of living to do before I get there and I plan to do it. I plan to take everything day by day.

  One step at a time. One day at a time. One breath at a time.       

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Keep Moving Forward.

Nobody has any business living in the past. I have said that in a post before, but I really do mean it. There is a reason that your rearview mirror is so small and your windshield is so big. Keep moving forward, keep going.

For a girl who hasn't had one of her big dreams come true, I still keep going.  I am being faced with a decision to go home or not and honestly going home doesn’t scare me. I will never get stuck there. I have made a promise to myself and I plan to keep that promise. I will get to where I am supposed to be. I could get to Nashville and hate it. I highly doubt that, but it could happen. That just means I need to set a new destination. Always chasing a dream, always going after something. Those dreams are quite possibly going to change as life goes on and I am ok with that.

Personally, I don’t like the idea of being patient. I hate it, but I also know that time is a wonderful thing and if we are patient something is going to come out of it. Might be 10 years of waiting, but you never know. You have to give something time before you give up on it. Don’t give in to failure because most times it is the easy way out. Work for something and hold you head high. Keep reaching for the stars. Be patient. Know that you have time. Every day is precious and shouldn't be taken for granted so why waste them being bored with your life.

            What is your dream? Say it to yourself. Have you actually been working towards that dream or is it just sitting in your mind? Be honest. I think about my dreams on a daily basis because I am constantly thinking about what my next step could be to achieve them. Dreams might have to be put on hold, mine are right now, but they never need to be forgotten. Keep at it, whatever it is.

            You’re going to get knocked down. That is life. We all get knocked down, everyone. We build our strength from when we are knocked down and then pick ourselves up after. If I have to go home, it is a big knock down, but I won’t stay down. I will get a job back home, save money, and get out of there.  I will keep moving towards where I feel in my heart that I need to be. Where in my heart I will be happy. I will not be kept down for long.

            We all have a life to live. A life to put effort into. I personally want to leave this world knowing I did something with my life. I want the satisfaction when I am 80 years old and looking back on my life as something amazing. Ups and downs, bumps and bruises. I don’t want to have what I memories, I want to have I did that memories.

            Prove something to yourself. You can do it. Pick yourself up and put one foot in front of the other. Keep going, you’ll get to where you need to be, but remember it isn’t going to get handed to you.

Stay positive and keep moving forward.

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Merry Christmas

Merry Christmas everyone.

Christmas isn't about the gifts under the tree, it is about the ones you love standing around the tree.

I hope everyone has a happy holiday today and gets to spend time with family.

Life is your Journey.

“Accept responsibility for your life. Know that it is you who will get you where you want to go, no one else.” —Les Brown

We are all on our own journey in life. We are all in charge of our journey. It is up to us to figure out where we want to go in life and to make it happen. 

My journey. I decided I needed to get away from the small town I lived in and to become my own person. I didn’t want to be someone who died in the zip code they have lived their whole life. I wanted to get away. My dreams we bigger than the small town I grew up in. I got out. I am still on the journey to get to Nashville. i know the future steps that need to be taken to get there and I will try my best to get them done as fast as I can and get there. I don’t know what is going to happen when I get to Nashville. Nothing can ever really be planned. I just know that whatever happens is up to me.

My family doesn’t exactly support me moving to Nashville. I had to make the decision to move on my own. I had doubts in my ear all the time. it was up to me. Either stay or go. Stay and possibly be stuck or go and get out. I can always go back, but leaving it the hardest part. I decided for me that I needed to be in charge. Not my family or friends. It’s my life and my choices. If I fail, oh well. At least I tried. I’ve made it to Georgia, which was a pretty big step.

Take charge of your journey. If you want to be somewhere or accomplish something, do it. Work for it. Don’t let people own your life. You won’t be happy if you settle. Where do you see yourself in 5 years? What is your dream? Go out and work for it. Nothing is going to fall into our laps. I mean, if you win the lottery and can buy everything, more power to you, but that isn’t realistic.

The life we live and the dreams we chase is what our journey is. Some don’t go far for what they want, some do. Each choice we make in life effects where our journey is going to take us. A new job, a new town, and a new love. Our lives change all the time. Our journey changes all the time.

It is important to just keep in mind that everything that happens to you is up to you. If you want to move, do it. Want a job promotion, do it. Want a new job, try it. Don’t limit yourself. The world is full of possibilities and nothing is ever off limits.

This post can't be full of how to or what to do advice. I am only allowed to make choices for myself when it come to my journey. The only advice I can give is to make sure that you are always working for something. Don't settle. Don't let people ruin your dreams. Enjoy your journey. Enjoy your life.

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Forget the Anxiety.

I have really bad anxiety. I probably should get it checked out, but I refuse to because I know I am stronger than it. I don’t want medication to control it when I know that I can just change my mind set. It takes some time normally, depending on what is going on, but I normally overcome it and a calmness overcome me. I worry, I overthink, and I overreact about what could possibly happen. Of course they are all bad scenarios, but I have learned to focus on what potentially could happen if it turns out for the best.

An example would be the fact that I had a job interview 2 weeks ago for a job that I really want. It is a job in my field of study (minor in college), human resources, and could teach me a lot. I have to have a backup in case I don’t get famous.. J Just joking. I live in the real world and I need to take care of my responsibilities as well as pursue my dreams. Back on track, the interview. I was freaking out. The worst part is that I decided not to tell any of my family. I decided not to tell them because 1. They would pressure me and it would be worse, and 2. I didn’t want to let them down. (I told them after the interview was over). I knew about the interview for a week before I had it. in that time I googled every possible interview question, I googled the company, and I made sure I knew all answers to scenarios I have been in. a lot of over preparing there. The day before the interview I had to stop and ask myself, “what are you doing?” I realized I was the one pressuring myself. I was prepared. I was going to be honest. I was going to be ME. If they don’t like me, they won’t give me the job. I cannot change who I am. I’m fun, nice, and easygoing. I want to get the job done and hate being bored. All qualities an employee should have. I told myself to shut up. On the way to the interview I turned the radio up and sang along. I relaxed and did not let my anxiety get the best of me.  The interview went good, but I have to wait till after Christmas to hear if I got it and if I didn’t….. It’s probably Illinois I’m coming back home.

The whole point of me telling that story/experience is to let you know that it is possible to overcome anxiety. Out yourself if a different place. Be honest with yourself. This interview for me was bigger than anything. I’m unemployed, I have student loans to pay back, and I might have to move home. Home is 12 hours away. I don’t have a job waiting for me when I go back either. This job interview is my life. I pray I get it, but hope I’m strong enough for the next chapter of what to do if I don’t.

Having anxiety is normal. Being nervous is normal. The thing to do is to figure out how to control it if it gets to be too much. I get nervous about everything, as I pointed out, and I have come up with something that helps me. Before I go to bed at night before whatever is making me anxious, I sit in the dark, take a deep breathe, and tell myself that it is going to be ok. Simple, not really. I give myself a pep talk. Make myself comfortable. Music is my comfort. I make sure I listen to music before whatever it is, or during it, and that calms me down. A good song changes my way of thinking in a snap.

DO WHAT YOU NEED TO DO!

Be positive, don’t look at the negative. Don’t let the negative outcomes weigh you down. Good nervous energy is good, but don’t let the bad nervous energy ruin it for you. Breathe and relax, it will be over before you know it.

I like hearing when famous musicians say that they get nervous before every show. The people who have done it a million times still get nervous, but guess what? They still go out and perform. Also, they mess up sometimes. I have been to two concerts in particular where they artist sings a song and then said, “I started singing at the wrong spot” or “I messed up the lyrics.” Their songs and they messed up? Wow. J We are all human after all.

Overcome it, don’t let it overcome you. If you get anxiety about something, just remember why you are doing it. It will be ok.

Taking chances is supposed to make us nervous, but we all have the power to succeed.

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Everything Happens For A Reason.

That quote is tattooed on my shoulder. I have it as a constant reminder in my life because it is true. I do not know all of the reasons things happen and I may never know them, but I know it happened for a reason. Everything has a purpose. Everything. Life happens and we have to go along with it. A simple conversation with someone can happen and have a lasting effect on us. Words, actions, everything has a meaning. Has a reason.

Do yourself a favor and do not get caught up in life. Don’t get caught up in the negativity of why things happen. You have a chance to grow because of each and every thing that happens in your life and take advantage of that. Life isn’t full of answers, it is full of questions. Ask the right ones. If you ask a wrong one, fix it. The answers are not always going to be given. Find the answers and if you don’t find them, ask better questions. The questions I refer to are our choices in life. The answers are the outcomes. The result of what we chose to do. We are here to live this life. LIVE IT! Don’t hide.

I overthink like crazy. My mind doesn’t shut up. I go through every bad thing that could possible happen, but one thing I always go back to is “whatever happens, happens”. It is going to turn out how it is meant to turn out. I cannot dwell on an outcome. You can’t change the past, even though I wish we could. Move on. Move forward. Without this quote, I might go insane. I tell myself it is going to happen out it is supposed to and I calm down.

Don’t search for the reasons. If they’re meant to be known they will come to you. It is a blessing in disguise that reasons aren’t known to us. With whatever happens, look within yourself for the answer of what to do next. Keep going on whatever path you are trying to walk on.

I don’t know why I chose to move to Georgia and I don’t know why I haven’t gotten a job. I don’t know why I am in the situation I am in. it has just happened this way. I’m growing because of it and I know what not to do next time, but I’m here now and I have to make the best of it. I have to know that something good has to come out of this, even if that something good is me looking back in a year and saying wow. I know I will smile and laugh about it someday and I cannot wait to see what all I will learn from this experience.

I’ve gotten told that the quote “everything happens for a reason” is stupid. Well, everyone is different and some people aren’t going to agree with it, but I live by it. I love it. I am a true believer of those words. As I said above, I have it tattooed on my body. It is that important to me. It’s a big part of my life and my journey to stay positive.

If this quote isn’t the one that speaks to you. Go find one. I did a blog post earlier of many quotes. Find one that you can say to yourself on a daily basis. One that moves you. One that has an impact. 

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Show Your Srength.

Strength

1. Mental power, force, or vigor.
2. Moral power, firmness, or courage.
3. Power by reason of influence, authority, resources, numbers, etc.
4. Effective force, potency, or cogency.
5. The power of resisting force.
6. Vigor of action, language, feeling, etc.

When people knock you down, all they want is to have you give up. Don’t let them win. Show them that you’re stronger than the words they throw at you. If someone says you can’t do it, show them you can. I get told all the time that I am not going to achieve my dreams. I haven’t stopped going after them, but I have stopped talking about them with the people who push me down. To be honest I don’t believe my friends really even know the extent of my dreams. I chose to keep them to myself and the only one that can try to knock me down are the ones that I’ve got to go through to reach my dreams.

My way of doing it isn’t the normal way. Most people would talk with the family and friends about it, but I choose not to. i would prefer to see their reactions in the end if I do make my dreams come true, and if I never make them come true, they will never know.

I have been knocked down many times. Whether it be by family members, who were only trying to help, or friends, or those people who stand in the way of my dreams. I pick myself up. I move forward. Nobody has any business living in the past.

There are many ways to show your strength. Speaking up about it. Moving forward. Not giving up. Etc. the strength you have lies within you and it’s the courage you show when you do something. Let it out. You will never know how strong you really are. It takes courage to do new things and if you don’t do new things, nothing is going to change.

I moved. That took every bit of strength I had. I didn’t want to leave my family. Yes, I moved in with my brother, but it was my parents, my support system, that I was leaving behind. I left my friends, and have yet to make any new ones, due to no job, and that right there also, I left my job. No income. Doing something crazy with all the doubt from everyone. My mom tells me to come home every time I talk to her on the phone, which is typically every day. If I go home it is considered the easy way out. It is taking a lot of strength for me to still be in Georgia, but I know someday I will thank myself for it.

Don’t let people tear you down. Don’t let people win. The way our society is there is always going to be negativity out there and it is going to be aimed at you sometimes. Rise above it. Stay strong. Stay positive. Remember that only you can stand in your own way.

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