take your own advice!

So let me ask you a question. Do you ever have talk with your friends and give them advice? The next question I am going to ask is, do you ever say to yourself that you need to take your own advice? I do this all the time!!!! Thinking to myself that I need to actually use the advice I am giving to other people and use it in a way that benefits me as well!

Think about it for a second…. If you could have a conversation with yourself, what would you talk about and what would you say. “Work isn’t going very well”, how do you respond to that. What would you tell your friends? My typical response to someone who is complaining about their job is to look at the bigger picture. Is there something better out there? Would you be happier somewhere else?  Are you just complaining to complain? Let’s be honest, we all do that. if I were to complain to myself about my job, I would tell myself to shut up. My job, yea it doesn’t pay a million bucks, but they are going to pay for me to get my master’s degree. Saving that cost alone is worth staying at my job. I do actually like my job though! It might get boring sometimes, but what job doesn’t. If you’re going to talk to someone who doesn’t like their job, and you don’t like your job, then you need to sit down and look at the bigger picture and ask yourself is it worth staying where you are, or would you really be happy seeking out another job…

Relationship advice is one thing I actually hate talking to people about. I can do it and I will give my friends my opinion if they ask for it, but I have no room to talk in the relationship area. Let me explain myself a little bit. I have been single, not in an actual relationship for about 5 years now. I have casually dated, but have not gotten into anything serious. I have trust issues and just have it in my head that when the right guy comes around, I will let him in. Sooooo, I’m not holding my breath for Mr. Right at the moment. I have friends that are in serious relationships and always are I relationships so if ever they come to me to talk about their guy, I give it from my perspective, but that is all I can do. I cannot really relate. I kind of lose in that department. If I had to talk with myself about being in a relationship or getting into a new relationship with someone, I would quickly change the subject. I hate being alone and yes it would be nice to have someone in my life, but I don’t ever want to settle. I want to skip the dating part and just attend my wedding tomorrow to the man I love…… back to reality; I hope I’m not alone forever. I would talk to myself about how I really feel about dating, things that maybe I don’t talk to my friends about because, just like I can’t relate to being in a relationship at the moment, they cannot relate to being single. And they cannot fully understand why I have stayed single for so long. Long story short on this one. If you had to talk to yourself about the relationship that you are in, would you talk about why you’re happy? Why you might not be so happy? If you’re single, what would you say. “I’m waiting for Mr. right to walk into my life?” “I’m still not over my ex?” all of the things that could be said, you just have to be honest with yourself J give yourself some clarity on your own life!

Life in general is something that I need to take my own advice on. Follow your dreams! Yea, I’m still not doing that. Live with no regrets! Again, I’m failing! Sit back and review your life, as a whole. Family, you happy? If not, help make your relationships better. Talk to yourself as an outsider looking in. My mom and I still fight, I need to shut up and not argue.  Work, you happy? If not, what do you need to change? Is it just your mentality? Everyone hates working, but we can’t all win the lottery, or be rich. We have to suck it up and adult. Now your lifestyle is also something that you should take a look at. I would sit myself down and tell myself to step it up! Meaning with my workouts! I am doing well with the healthy lifestyle part of it, but working out is important also. I don’t make excuses, I just hate working out. I don’t get that workout high that some people get, I actually don’t feel good after I work out and that is because my body overheats really easily, so I have to be really careful or I will pass out because of it. I have found a workout program that really works for me and I just try to stay motivated! Now, how is your lifestyle? Are there things that you would change? Sit yourself down and really talk about it. Think about it, if you want to change something, don’t just say you will. Actually, do it!

cb37973510b80bad218465b98b82f60426ea6484f36af713fd

So many different things that can be put into a conversation. If you think the thought of talking things out to yourself isn’t something that you want to do, then go to your friends. If you don’t like the advice they give you, then you know that you need to think or an alternative for whatever the situation is. Just really think about things and I guess when I say that, think about the things that you want to change in your life and figure out how to do that, and if you cannot change it then figure out how you need to change to be happy with it.

It's a new year.

Start fresh.

I love when the new year gets here because I feel like it is a way to evaluate myself and how I have been living and allow myself to fix done things. I'm not big into the typical resolutions of "I wanna lose weight", "I want to get healthy", etc. Granted yes, I want to do that, but that is a life goal, not just for this year.

I am into resolutions that are going to benefit me. My resolution is to not spend my money on things I don't need. I have student loans and as I'm getting older, my bills are getting larger. I don't want to worry about money because I bought two new purses and a pair of boots.... I have to be honest with myself and get ahead in a world that cost so much.

In the last year, I'm not exactly happy with how it went, so I want to make better decisions. I'm going to start my masters. I'm going to save money. I'm going to focus on myself since I am all I have. Meaning no significant other. I give myself an F for the first part of the year, but a B for the later part of the year. I going for an A in 2016.

Reflect on all that you have done in the previous year and really think about what you need to do to make this year better. Did you first? Keep it up. Did you gain weight and want tiki lose it? There is no time like the present to start a new healthy life. Want to save money? Learn to budget. Want to move? Plan. New job? Go for it. :)

I moved home. Fail, but I'm saving money to try again. I started dieting and have lost 30 pounds. Win, but I'm still going. :) I got a new job I hated, fail, but I then for a new job I am happy with. I have to look at the positive and negative.

I know the whole "new year, new you" thing is pretty standard among a lot of people, but take it seriously. Whatever you want to do...... Why not start now? Don't put things off. Oprah is doing weight watchers and her whole thing is "if not now, when?". I feel that needs to be said for songwriting in like that you want to do. Go for it. :)


                    

Happy holidays!

This is the time of the year that we all reflect on things we are thankful for and we spend time with the people we love!

I hope that everyone who does spend the holidays alone, knows that they are loved by their loved ones. I hope they are loved by someone! I spent Christmas alone last year and it isn't any fun.

I hope everyone has a Merry Christmas, and had a great new year.



******Starting off in the new year, I will be back writing here more!

Learn from the past

We all have done things that maybe haven't turned out for the best, but it still happened. In life we are going to go through things that will be fine, and others that we wish we could have a do over. Unfortunately in this crazy thing we called life, do overs don't really exist.

Whether is was a bad relationship, a horrible choice in jobs, or.maybe even something family related, we can all take something away from it.

My example would be that the last job I worked, may-september, was not a good fit for me. The stress of it was making me sick and I felt like I was losing grip of my life! I made the decision to quit the job and find another, but I will always take the skills I learned on that job with me. It was a short time, but I feel I learned to be a better person and to have more patience. I have nightmares about working there still and it haunts me, but there was a plus side to it.

We learn from so many things on a daily basis. A failed relationship will help you realize what you really want from a significant other. A job choice that doesn't fit you can help you determine what does suit you for a career path.  Bad choices in friends also shine light on what type of people you want to be around.

We all make mistakes and it makes us human, just learn from them. Grow as a person because of what you have been through. Give advice when you see someone going through something similar.

There are things in my life that I constantly think about when thinking ant the past. I also think about how fast I have come since that has happened and what I have done to grow and learn from it.

I moved to georgia, failed and moved back home, but you better believe I'm saving up money to do it all over again (moving to Tennessee this time) because I learned from what didn't go right with the move to georgia and I'm not giving up.

I an a big believer of "everything happens for a reason". We might not know why now, but some day it will make sense. I tend to focus on the past more than I should and I am always thinking about how far I have come. I am proud of the person I have become because of what I have gone though in my life. I won't let the past hold me back. Don't let it hold you back.

Learn, breathe, and grow. Life moves on, so can you

Find Motivation!

Whether you are wanting to lose weight, find a new job, move, or make any life changing decision in your life, it isn’t easy to just say you want to do it. If you are planning on starting a new diet, you need to find that push to keep going because it is hard. If you want to start a new job, it’s a lifestyle change, it’s hard.

If you plan on losing weight, you have to find what keeps you going. Personally I have post-it notes all over my apartment that say the negative things that I feel about myself and also the positive things that I want to feel. If your motivation is rewarding yourself with prizes for every 10 pounds you lose, that is awesome. If it is motivation from working out with a friend, that is also a great way to get motivated. There are endless ways to find motivation and it is important to make sure that you find the motivation that you need to keep going and don’t give up. Find motivation that will help you and is YOUR motivation.

I personally don’t want to stay in the state that I live in so I have to find all the motivation in the world not to spend my money on stupid things and to save it so I can move as soon as possible. If you are planning a move in your life, it is obviously in your mind for a reason. Make sure that life doesn’t get in your way and that you push it away. Keep that idea in your mind and go for it! Whatever motivation you need. Motivation to save money, go find a job there, find a place to live there, or simply to take the scary step to doing it.

It’s hard to simply not say find motivation. It can be one of the easiest things to do or one of the hardest things to do. You can find motivation that works great for you, but eventually doesn’t work anymore.

Being motivated to do something gives you that extra push to go after what you want. Could be simply being motivated to get up in the morning, to go to work to eventually get that promotion.  Rewarding yourself with a new outfit after you lose your first 20 pounds. A new pair of shoes after you get a new job.

Get motivated to do something. If you aren’t working for something life can get a little boring.

As I said earlier, it can be hard for me to not just say find motivation, but it really is that simple. Whatever your goal is, and we all have some sort of goal at any given moment, you need something to keep yourself going after it. keep it up, whatever it may be. 

My Update

I have been away for awhile because well, I didnt know what to post about because I was still going through so many negative things that while trying to stay positive, I didnt want to come of negative by accident.


Well I started a new job a week and a half ago and I will be working with individuals who are recovering from a brain injury. It will be a great opportunity I feel.

Also I have been back in illinois for two months... Surprise. A lot of people who I was friends with before I moved still dont know and slowly I will tell them, maybe. Its a long story why I decided to come back and its my life.

Best believe I will make it out of this town..

Im going to try and post more.

Even if nobody is reading :)

Don't Be Negative

When you look at your life, what do you see? The things that are wrong with it? Or the thing that are good? The unfortunate fact is that most people tend to look at the negative. I hate my job, I hate my weight, I need more money, etc. the list can go on and on.

Something that we need to do as a whole in our society is to stop looking at what others have and what we don’t, and start looking at what we do have. What are you thankful for? It isn’t something that you should just pay attention to around the holidays. You should keep these things in mind all year around. Thankful for family? Friend? Actually having a job? Having a home? Sometimes it is the little things. Sometimes it’s very important things.

Living a life where you are constantly negative is going to turn you into a very negative person. It will also turn you into a very jealous person. Nobody wants to be around people life that.

Look in the mirror, instead of saying what you don’t like, tell yourself what you do? We all have flaws, to help give ourselves more positivity we need to start with ourselves! Society gives us the perception that we have to be perfect, which isn’t possible. Individuality is what makes each and every one of us beautiful.

We all have negative moments, we are human. We must try to be optimistic and not dwell on the negative. Look at it as negative for a second, that is typically the first reaction, but the secret weapon is ot say “ok that sucks, but….” Find the positive. If you have to change something, change it. If it can’t be changed, deal with it and learn from it.

Personally I have every reason to be so negative right now. I am trying my best not to be negative and I try to focus on the good. Of course I have bad days, but don’t let them get the best of me. No job, I keep applying. Disappointing my parents, I know one day it won’t be that way. Hate where I live, I’m making the best of it. I just keep moving forward, not backwards.

Don’t hold yourself back with a negative attitude. No one wants to be around someone who is constantly negative and complaining. It’s ok to vent to people, but make sure it doesn’t consist of only the negative. Make a point to look at the positive.