Have A Bad Day!

First i have to say, don't let the bad days get the best of you. Remember to be positive and to keep you're head up. Don't let a bad day ruin your spirit and please try to make any bad day go away as soon as you can. Surround yourself with people who care that you can talk to and that can help you turn a bad day into a great day. 

A bad day… I’ve been having a lot of those lately. Kind of just giving myself time to actually think about everything and evaluate my life and what I need to do. I have come to the realization that it really is ok to not be happy all the time. Everyone has a bad day and everyone is human. We all have things that we need to deal with and we have to deal with them to be ok again.

If something is bothering you go ahead and deal with it. If you push it down for the sake of not wanting to deal with it or to not burden others with your problems, it is going to continue to grow. The problem can’t be solved until you deal with it. If you don’t want to talk to someone about it, write it out. I used to do this all the time. If I was having a bad day I would write it out. After I wrote out what was bothering me and how I planned to deal with it, I tore up the paper and threw it away. It was a therapy for me and even though I didn’t talk to anyone, writing it down was enough.

Find your way to deal with whatever might be causing your bad day. Talk to friends or family, write in a journal, or even find a hobby that helps clear your head. It is all up to you, but just don’t put on a front to hide from it.

It’s ok to be sad, it’s ok to hurt, but you just have to not stay down for long. Picking yourself up after something gets you down is a sign of strength.

I am always ok with having a bad day because I know that when the days aren’t bad anymore, the problem has been solved and I have overcome something and I survived. I lived, life got to me, but I lived. Life gets hard and you now there are so many things that can get you down in life, but it’s the picking yourself back up that makes it worth dealing with. You become a stronger person. Some problems in life cannot be solved overnight, some can. Some decisions can be made at a moment’s notice and some need time, a lot of time. Just don’t let issues with life take your life over.

I have had to make a lot of decisions lately and to be honest I still don’t know the answers to those decisions. I feel as though I’m drowning in my own thoughts sometimes. The problems/issues/decisions that I’m dealing with right now are hard ones to make and once I decide what decision I want to make, I’m not happy with it. I am not happy with the choices I have, but hopefully things are going to be looking up, but the countdown is on for me to make a decision and I have no clue what I am going to do. I guess I just need to write it all out and eventually the decision will come to me. My bad days will be good ones again, I have hope. Time will tell.

I don’t want to keep repeating myself, but having a bad day isn't a sign of defeat

Do remember that there are people out there that are having worse days than you, and hopefully their days are getting better, and hopefully your bad day is only a day, but if it last longer than a day, I hope things get better for you.

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Forget the Anxiety.

I have really bad anxiety. I probably should get it checked out, but I refuse to because I know I am stronger than it. I don’t want medication to control it when I know that I can just change my mind set. It takes some time normally, depending on what is going on, but I normally overcome it and a calmness overcome me. I worry, I overthink, and I overreact about what could possibly happen. Of course they are all bad scenarios, but I have learned to focus on what potentially could happen if it turns out for the best.

An example would be the fact that I had a job interview 2 weeks ago for a job that I really want. It is a job in my field of study (minor in college), human resources, and could teach me a lot. I have to have a backup in case I don’t get famous.. J Just joking. I live in the real world and I need to take care of my responsibilities as well as pursue my dreams. Back on track, the interview. I was freaking out. The worst part is that I decided not to tell any of my family. I decided not to tell them because 1. They would pressure me and it would be worse, and 2. I didn’t want to let them down. (I told them after the interview was over). I knew about the interview for a week before I had it. in that time I googled every possible interview question, I googled the company, and I made sure I knew all answers to scenarios I have been in. a lot of over preparing there. The day before the interview I had to stop and ask myself, “what are you doing?” I realized I was the one pressuring myself. I was prepared. I was going to be honest. I was going to be ME. If they don’t like me, they won’t give me the job. I cannot change who I am. I’m fun, nice, and easygoing. I want to get the job done and hate being bored. All qualities an employee should have. I told myself to shut up. On the way to the interview I turned the radio up and sang along. I relaxed and did not let my anxiety get the best of me.  The interview went good, but I have to wait till after Christmas to hear if I got it and if I didn’t….. It’s probably Illinois I’m coming back home.

The whole point of me telling that story/experience is to let you know that it is possible to overcome anxiety. Out yourself if a different place. Be honest with yourself. This interview for me was bigger than anything. I’m unemployed, I have student loans to pay back, and I might have to move home. Home is 12 hours away. I don’t have a job waiting for me when I go back either. This job interview is my life. I pray I get it, but hope I’m strong enough for the next chapter of what to do if I don’t.

Having anxiety is normal. Being nervous is normal. The thing to do is to figure out how to control it if it gets to be too much. I get nervous about everything, as I pointed out, and I have come up with something that helps me. Before I go to bed at night before whatever is making me anxious, I sit in the dark, take a deep breathe, and tell myself that it is going to be ok. Simple, not really. I give myself a pep talk. Make myself comfortable. Music is my comfort. I make sure I listen to music before whatever it is, or during it, and that calms me down. A good song changes my way of thinking in a snap.

DO WHAT YOU NEED TO DO!

Be positive, don’t look at the negative. Don’t let the negative outcomes weigh you down. Good nervous energy is good, but don’t let the bad nervous energy ruin it for you. Breathe and relax, it will be over before you know it.

I like hearing when famous musicians say that they get nervous before every show. The people who have done it a million times still get nervous, but guess what? They still go out and perform. Also, they mess up sometimes. I have been to two concerts in particular where they artist sings a song and then said, “I started singing at the wrong spot” or “I messed up the lyrics.” Their songs and they messed up? Wow. J We are all human after all.

Overcome it, don’t let it overcome you. If you get anxiety about something, just remember why you are doing it. It will be ok.

Taking chances is supposed to make us nervous, but we all have the power to succeed.

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